Taking the mystery out of the process
Determine your needs at this time:
Have you had coaching or therapy before?
Did you get to a certain place and stall? Did you have a good experience, yet something recent has happened where you have noticed some of the same symptoms returning? (problems with sleep, appetite, sadness, anxiety, social withdrawal, apathy, over -eating, -drinking, or -shopping, or relationship concerns?).
Never had coaching or therapy before and don’t know what it’s like?
Are you interested in improvement of your experience in life, e.g. better feelings, better health, better relationships, better job, finances, or the like? Does fulfillment elude you? or do you find yourself in a repeating pattern that doesn’t work for you or your loved ones?
Any kind of personal growth requires a commitment and an investment of time, money, and emotions. Yet with new more integrated techniques that actively involve your body, mind, emotions, and spirit, it simply doesn’t take as long as you might think. You may be hurting, but the process doesn’t need to hurt; it can be pain-releasing. The benefits of inner peace, connected, harmonious relationships, improved health and vitality is worth the investments. Some people read a few self help books, do the processes recommended in them, and can go on, having learned a few new things. Others, due to a lonely or compromised childhood, or stressful situations in adulthood, will require a guide at various times, to assist with their growth; to help them see the light within.
Lorna, how do you determine what methods to use with me?
This is where the art of this work, experience and intuition are key. I will follow how you process information. For example, are you able to access and sit with emotions or body sensations without dissociating, are you a thinker, a feeler or a talker, and things like that. I pay attention, tune in and guide you in ways that you can’t nudge yourself. That way you can get better, not just feel better. In fact, often people process old stuff and feel sad or angry or fearful for a bit in the session, but then the uncomfortable feelings start to clear up. Like the light has always been on in the room, but you had clouded glasses on.
How long will it take?
Since life if an ongoing blossoming of Self, and life happens, this is always a difficult question for any therapist to answer. Do you have a single trauma to work through? Like one car accident, and now you have flashbacks and nightmares of that accident but no other symptoms – this can take as little as 3 sessions. Some people find they have more significant symptoms, as there have been prior wounding that has yet to be relieved or “worked through”. You may think the past is not informing your present, but if it is, we will root it out, moving towards healing for your growth. Some people work through one symptom, take a break, and come in for something else later. The goal will be to have you think and feel differently, and make healthy choices with confidence and freedom.
I limit my clients to those who are ready, willing and able work toward a better future for themselves and their families.
How do I choose a therapist?
What does your gut say when you are talking with the person on the phone or even listening to their voice mail? You may talk with many people before making a choice. It’s not all about what letters are after their name, nor how much they charge for sessions, it’s more about what feels like a good fit for you at this time. It’s very personal to you.